Do you consider yourself shy? Do you walk around and say to yourself, "I wish I weren't shy so I could approach people." When I hear singles label themselves as "shy," I know they are limiting their dating opportunities. Being shy isn't a physical trait like having brown eyes... you can eliminate it and overcome it. Here are four tips to help you forever overcome your dating shyness: 1. Eliminate Shyness from Your Identity. If someone asks you if you're shy, what is your answer? Do you say "Yes, I am a shy person." When you say that, you are accepting that being shy is just part of who you are -- that it's part of your identity. By you telling yourself, and others, that you are a shy person, you are negatively affecting your own mindset. It is very limiting. One of the first, and most important ways to overcome shyness is to be conscious about eliminating it as part of your identity. One way to get to that place if you are having trouble is to speak about yourself as if you've already overcome your shyness. The next time someone asks you if you're shy, you can say "I am no longer a shy person." As you continue to say this, you will believe it. 2. Stop Listening to the Monkey Chatter in Your Head. What do you think about when you feel shy? Do a whole bunch of different thoughts go through your mind like monkey chatter you hear at the Central Park Zoo? Are there what seems like hundreds of monkeys screaming all different things in you ear, none of which are good thoughts? Do you think that you can't talk to members of the opposite sex because you're shy? Do you believe that people next to you are thinking negative things about you because of your shyness, or about how you look or about anything else about you? You need to stop listening to all of this negative talk in your head. Be aware of when your perception about a situation comes solely from these negative thoughts in your head, and then consciously choose to ignore them. You need to stop speculating and assuming things about what's going on around you based on the negative chatter in your head. It will lead you astray every time. 3. Realize You're Not Being Judged. Do you ever refrain from approaching someone because you are worried about what people around you will think about you? Are you worried that they will think you're strange, or pathetic, or a failure, or that they will make fun of you if you approach a potential mate? Realize that people around you are probably not talking about you or thinking about you at all. They aren't because they are doing exactly what you are doing, i.e., thinking about themselves and what's going on in their own lives. They may be worrying just like you do about their own problems, their own issues and, maybe, about their own shyness. Have you ever been standing in a grocery checkout line next to someone you'd love to talk to but don't because you don't want to be judged by those around you? These people are not judging you. They are thinking about how miserable they are in their job, how they weren't happy with the latte they were served that morning, and how long it's taking them to get through that grocery line. The only person judging you on your shyness is you. The only person thinking about the thoughts in your head is you. 4. Embrace the Power to Beat Shyness. The truth is that being shy is all about you and your own thoughts about yourself. It's not about anything or anyone else. The good news about this is that you're not stuck being shy ... you have the power to overcome your shyness. Once you understand this, you then need to take the necessary action to become more confident. Only you have the power to open your mouth and say hello to anyone. Being shy really means that you are judging yourself. It means that you are judging yourself to be unworthy and incapable of meeting and attracting someone, which is totally untrue. You need to accept your life. You need to accept yourself for who you are and what you're all about, then go out and talk to others with that confidence. When you stop judging yourself harshly, you will no longer feel shy. Once you understand what being shy really is and how it can control you, you can change your thinking and your emotions to eliminate it from your life permanently. Don't let a poor mindset hold you back from meeting someone new.
William Joseph Crawford (born on January 28, 1984), better known by his stage name Ya Boy, is an American rapper from the Fillmore District of San Francisco, California.
He graduated from El Camino High School in 2002. Shortly after, he started rapping in the same year, with his song "16's With Me" being the first to hit it big locally. It was produced by South San Francisco producer Big D and sampled the Imperial March from Star Wars. Ya Boy gained more attention from his song "100 Bars of Crack" where he raps 100 bars over Dr. Dre's "Nuthin' But a "G" Thang" beat (featured on The Black Wall Street Journal Vol. 1) and "100 More Bars" which is done in the same style, but it uses the instrumental from the Jim Jones song "We Fly High". In "100 Bars of Crack" Ya Boy keeps listeners mesmerized for a span of 100 bars of rap lines. [3]He hit the world off with quotable after quotable and never become stagnant, all in a span of 5 minutes.[4] With the recently released Black Wallstreet Journal under The Game's BWS imprint, many have called him the breakout star of the project and all eyes are on him, just as they were on the late 2Pac 10 years ago.[5] 2Pac is his greatest influence.[6]
Ya Boy has also been working with platinum producers and major factors in the music industry.[7] With songs on Johnathan 'JR' Rotem tracks, as well as collaborations with BWS producer Nu Jerzey Devil, and an up and coming young producer from North Carolina, D1, as well as Southern Cali's finests Pete G. [8]Ya Boy definitely has the right ammo to bring the world even more hits. [9]
Ya Boy was given his name by his cousin Bailey, and was helped to develop into a rap artist by his other cousin San Quinn. In the Summer of 2005, Ya Boy released his first solo mixtape, Future of the Franchise. This was to be followed up by his debut album, Rookie of the Year[10] on Done Deal Entertainment, LLC. His album features E-40, Turf Talk, Clyde Carson of The Team, San Quinn and more. The first single off the album was produced by Rick Rock and is titled "Step Ya Game Up." Done Deal also owns the rights to another Ya Boy album, titled West Coast Machine (originally called The Machine), however, a release date for this album has not yet been determined. All songs on the album were recorded from 2004-2006. Ya Boy is still on good terms with Done Deal and does songs with the label on a regular basis. He the cousin of Done Deal's owner, San Quinn and rapper Messy Marv.
In 2006, Ya Boy began an affiliation with The Black Wall Street. The Game took him under his wing. His affiliation with Game brought him a step higher in the rap game, as he began to collaborate with big name producers such as JR Rotem, Nu Jerzey Devil and Scott Storch. Pop star Britney Spears' then-husband Kevin Federline called upon Ya Boy to co-write songs[11] and appear as a guest on Federline's debut album Playing with Fire. Ya Boy was also featured in the Source magazine in September 2006 as the Unsigned Hype. Ya Boy is also known to sport the Heroics clothing brand, whose lead designer Devon Almarinez created the official Ya Boy brand logo, which is tattooed on Ya Boy's neck.
He now released the single for "Holla at Ya Boy" produced by Cool & Dre for his self-titled album called Holla at Ya Boy. Ya Boy released a mixtape called Chapter 1: The Rise produced by DJ Skee. [12] Ya Boy has made a name for himself on YOUTUBE with many videos that have over 100,000 views. Contents [hide]
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1 // You may need more sleep than you think. Research by Henry Ford Hospital Sleep Disorders Center found that people who slept eight hours and then claimed they were "well rested" actually performed better and were more alert if they slept another two hours. That figures. Until the invention of the lightbulb (damn you, Edison!), the average person slumbered 10 hours a night.
2 // Night owls are more creative. Artists, writers, and coders typically fire on all cylinders by crashing near dawn and awakening at the crack of noon. In one study, "evening people" almost universally slam-dunked a standardized creativity test. Their early-bird brethren struggled for passing scores.
3 // Rising early is stressful. The stress hormone cortisol peaks in your blood around 7 am. So if you get up then, you may experience tension. Grab some extra Zs! You'll wake up feeling less like Bert, more like Ernie.
There appears to be a trend of older women dating younger men, notably illustrated by celebrity couples including Demi Moore and Aston Kutcher, Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubry, and the most recent fling between 48-year-old Linda Hogan and 19-year-old Charlie Hill. According to a study of 50,000 women daters over 30, conducted by an online dating site in 2007, more than one-third of the subjects showed interest in men at least 5 years younger. And in 2003, an AARP survey revealed 34 percent of 3,500 women (between ages 40 and 69) dated men who are 10 or more years younger than themselves. This trend appears to be shocking to some people, but I don't find it so unusual. Socially, there's a role reversal of sorts going on, women are more powerful now than ever before and may want men who are younger, and perhaps, more flexible; men who can handle it if the woman's career and lifestyle takes priority over their own. Media portrayals in "Sex and the City" (like movie characters Smith Jerrod and Samantha Jones) and "Desperate Housewives" are also showing women that dates don't have to be older. Women who have high-powered careers -- or a well-developed self-image -- are exercising more choice. Women who have been divorced and are established single moms may enjoy having a playmate, someone to have fun with; who doesn't try to control her. Can these older woman/younger man relationships last? In my counseling office, I have seen many relationships succeed with this kind of older woman/younger man scenario. The media focuses on the age difference, but what really makes or breaks the relationship is how well the couple can form a partnership that works The media focuses on the age difference, but what really makes or breaks the relationship is how well the couple can form a partnership that works. Age difference is an adolescent worry: When you're a teenager, an age difference of even two or three years makes a vast difference in your experience and your outlook on life. Such a difference can interfere with communication, life goals, outlook, and relationship experience. In addition, for the young, the social reaction to such a relationship is often negative. If one partner is underage, a sexual relationship is even against the law. But, as you get older, life experience and emotional growth help to equalize your relationship skills and resources. A 10-year or more difference in your ages makes little difference in how well you can conduct your relationship. Don't focus on an arbitrary numbers difference in your ages. If you are getting along, you have good communication and problem solving, and you love each other, that's a precious thing, and far more important than any age difference could be. If other people have a problem with it, let it be their problem. Whether or not a relationship is healthy is not determined by age differences, but by the interaction between the partners. A 10-year difference is not too difficult to bridge, but a 20-year differences or more in age can lead to some difficulties as the partners get older. For example, the younger partner may mature and reconsider his or her choices, or an older partner may confront aging problems much sooner. But, as long as both parties are adult, and the couple has talked about their age difference and the future possibilities, I don't make judgments about their respective ages. Dealing with the generation gap There are healthy and unhealthy reasons to date someone of a different generation. One inappropriate motivation for dating a younger person is fear of aging on the older person's part. One inappropriate motivation for dating a younger person is fear of aging on the older person's part. A younger partner isn't going to reverse the aging process or protect you from old age. Obviously, a man or woman who dates someone as young as his or her children is going to run into some social opposition, but the differences that can cause the biggest problems within the couple's relationship are differing maturity levels. As more and more women choose younger partners for relationships, the question arises: Are women in their late 30s and early 40s likely to be successful with partners who are 10 to 15 years younger than themselves? Success in these relationships depends on what the motivations of both people are. Some older people feel younger at heart than their contemporaries and like to date people who are as active as they are. Chronological age doesn't always reflect either physical capability or emotional maturity. Sometimes an age difference creates a mentoring relationship the older person advises the younger one on life or career. This can backfire if and when the younger person decides he or she has learned enough, and wants to move on. yahoo.com
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